Today is Blogging for LGBTQ Families Day. I have had this day on the calendar for at least a month now. But the month of May completely got away from me. In lieu of anything more creative, here is a summary of our day. This was today, June 2nd, 2014. (I haven’t blogged in a while waiting for some creative Baba-inspired things to happen – and in the meantime, life as a parent has taken over.)
5:30am. Ben (almost two!) wakes up. It’s my turn, so I get up with him. I trick him into cuddling on the guest bed for half an hour and then I turn on Dora for another half hour while I snooze.
6:30am Ells (now five!) wakes up and comes looking for us. We eat cereal together.
7:00am Mama is awake. We’re still eating. Ben decided he wants to eat cereal from Mama’s bowl (it tastes better!)
Today is our family day. Mama worked all weekend so we get to spend Monday together. We’ve planned on going strawberry picking. But we are in no hurry to get out the door. We lounge around in our pajamas for awhile. Check email, read the news. The kids do that thing they do where they manage to spread toys across the floor. Of course the grown-ups do the breakfast dishes, make a picnic lunch, load the car. Everyone gets dressed.
10:00am We’re on the road to the you-pick strawberry farm. I’m in the middle of an eight-week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction class (another reason I haven’t posted here lately: 45 minute of homework each day), and so I attempt to practice a guided mindfulness session in the passenger seat of the car during the drive. SPOILER: It didn’t work.
10:30am We arrive at the farm. Ben has fallen asleep in the car. He usually only naps in the afternoon, so this really throws things off. Also, it’s a sign that waking up at 5:30am isn’t working for him either. We eat our snack while sitting on the back end of the car. Mama and I eat our lunch now, a mistake we will regret while driving home at 1:00pm.
11:00am We wake Ben up and take the hayride out to the strawberry fields. This is the best part of the day. It’s a Monday, so it’s not crowded. The sun isn’t blaring down yet, so the weather is perfect. We all pick strawberries. Ells goes off on her own with a basket. Ben helps us by pointing and then dropping berries from our hands into our baskets. We see butterflies, birds, flowers. We end up with fourteen pounds of strawberries.
12:30pm The kids eat their lunch in a gazebo. Ben spills his milk down his shirt, into his pants. He is sitting in a puddle of milk. He says, “Uh oh, milk, shoe.” And he’s right, there is milk dripping out of his shoe.
1:00pm We drive home. This is Ben’s normal nap time and we had hoped he’d nap in the car on the way back. He doesn’t.
1:30pm Mama tries to get Ben to nap in his room. I’m exhausted and lay down on the couch hoping to read some fanfiction (Gail & Holly Rookie Blue, currently), but Ellie wants to play with ribbon. I tell her she can go get it herself. She does. Then she wants to know what to do with the ribbon. I offer a few suggestions (tie it to something, glue something on to it…) that she refuses. She decides she wants to wrap a present. But she needs a box. I find her a box. Then she needs something to put in the box. I offer a few suggestions (draw a picture, find something little…) that she refuses. She finds a cookbook and reminds me of a story in one of her magazines where a family makes cookies to send to a cousin. She wants to make cookies to put in the box. I tell her to spend some time with the cookbook to figure out which cookies she wants to make. Eventually we find a recipe. We go to the kitchen and assemble our ingredients. We run into some issues because I don’t know if the yeast in a jar in the fridge is the same as instant yeast and I don’t know how much of that yeast in the jar is equal to half a packet. Really, I’m not the one for cooking projects. I tell her to wait for Mama. I tell her I have work to do and Mama is going to play with her during Ben’s nap so I can work.
3:00pm I realize that Mama has fallen asleep with Ben.
3:15pm I open the door to the bedroom hoping to wake Mama and Ben.
3:30pm Mama is awake and eating a snack. Ben and Ellie join her. I decide to get a jump on the evening chores and take the trash and recycling out. While outside I remember that I need to hose down the sidewalk (we were drawing with chalk yesterday but our neighbors don’t like chalk drawings left on the sidewalk).
3:45pm Both kids are now outside splashing in the hose water and drawing with chalk again. A neighbor comes over to talk. We visit awhile, our kids playing together.
4:15pm I go inside to find Mama cleaning and cutting strawberries. She kindly points out that if Ellie and I wanted to do a kitchen project we could’ve cleaned and cut strawberries! We had previously decided that tonight would be pizza and movie night. I call in the pizza. We realize we also need cream and shortcake. The kids are yelling at each other. Mama is groggy. I am still exhausted. Mama takes Ben to get the pizza, cream and shortcake. I clean and cut the rest of the strawberries. I make Ellie sit on the couch reading the second issue of LumberJanes. Then I make her put away all the toys that are spread out all over the floor. She says, “This is so Mama doesn’t feel so overwhelmed, right?”
5:30pm The co-op didn’t have shortcake so I’m making sweet Bisquick biscuits. Pizza arrives. We pile up in front of the TV. Ellie chose “The Adventures of Milo and Otis.” SPOILER: She is the only one that liked this movie. I did dishes instead of watching the movie. Mama started boiling down strawberries. Ben put the toys back on the floor.
7:00pm Normally the kids are done with the bath by now, but we are running behind schedule. Quick shower for everyone. Quick stories. It’s my night to read to Ellie and Mama’s night to read to Ben. Ellie and I are reading The Wizard of Oz on our nights.
8:00pm Kids are asleep. Mama is finishing the strawberries. I am blogging. After this I will do that work that I need to do today. Hopefully I’ll be done by 9pm, because I plan to watch some TV to relax.